A psychologist explained why teenagers call their parents toxic and what to do about it.
Modern children have not become less obedient, but the language in which they express disagreement with their parents has changed. Psychologist Yevgeny Trebnin explained to "Mel" how to maintain authority without strict discipline.
Don't idealize the past. Teenagers have always argued with adults.
Don't be afraid of the word "toxic". Find out what exactly hurt the child: these words may hide various reasons: from unwillingness to fulfill responsibilities to real feelings due to unfair treatment.
Listen without judgment. There may be real experiences behind the allegations.
Follow the rules. Personal boundaries do not replace household responsibilities.
Avoid tight control. The child has the right to disagree.
Be consistent. Don't change your mind just because you're not satisfied.
Do not educate with fear. Authority is built on respect and trust.