Don't whine, don't complain.
Only you can make yourself happy. Look for the joy in you.
Unlock your talents, fulfill your wishes and dance in the celebration of life. If you think that your lover can give you joy, then you are deeply mistaken. As soon as you think like that, you become a vampire trying to drain the joy from another person.
stop! This is a dead end. Your joy is not in other people. Remember: if you suffer, you suffer because of yourself. A fight between lovers is an attempt to steal the joy from the other. You can only get joy from other people when you love them. And you don't change them, but help them flourish. Help them reveal their talents and live a full life.
This applies to your loved ones, your children and everyone around you. Just love them and have fun with it.
🍀 Osho.