There must be a state of prayer, so that there is close love and respect. The main incentive for forgiveness is prayer, which produces love, respect and awareness that each person is an individual, and it is impossible to demand from the other what he does not have.
We often want everything to be as we understand it, as we want it. Everyone has their own characteristics, their own views, their own concepts.
If a person is in a state of prayer, he understands it and tolerates it. It is patience that should be the main incentive to strength. My wife came back from work, she was tired, she didn't have time to do anything. The husband must forgive her and do something himself. The same - the wife demands from her husband what he did not purchase, did not make, did not build a house. It requires patience.
Schema-Archimandrite Iliy (Nozdrin) on the family.