Don't live as if you are being judged all the time.
People around us usually notice our mistakes and shortcomings much less than we think. Everyone has their own concerns - you don't have to impress every minute.
The desire to look "cool" often forces you to copy someone else's way of speaking, habits and decisions. But what works for someone else may not work for you at all.
Choose your own guidelines: what is important to you, how you want to act, what you are willing to agree with. Listen to the advice, while maintaining the right to decide for yourself.
Self-respect does not guarantee everyone's approval. But it helps not to give up on yourself every time someone is unhappy with you.
- If you agree.
Psychoanalyst.