By transferring the conflict between the children to the parents' chat, adults create another problem, thinking that they are solving the main one. It is important to remember 3 rules that will help you avoid this. Don't talk about children in front of everyone Public accusation in general chat is not dialogue, but pressure. The other parent takes a defensive position, the others get involved, and the situation gets out of control. If you have a complaint, write in person or contact your class teacher. Advertising here does not help, but hinders. Don't find out who's to blame. Kids can fight at recess and fall apart quickly. Adults continue the discussion until the evening, finding out who is right. Don't turn a children's chapter into a parenting trial. Don't be personal. Assessing a child's character turns a specific action into a label that is difficult to remove later. Personality assessment is something that does not solve anything and only complicates the situation. Children notice tension between adults, even if they don't read the chat. A calm and respectful tone in correspondence is more than just politeness. This is a situation where school conflicts remain school conflicts and do not become long-term stories.