How to stop comparing your child to "mom's girlfriend's kids" The feeling of parental guilt that the child "didn't live up to expectations" has grown to epidemic proportions today. We live in a child-centered age, when children are generally seen as the main project of their lives, proof of their parental success and wealth. And if this project, according to the environment, does not succeed, then the parent falls into a bottomless pit of barren and destructive shame. How to get rid of it and stop constantly comparing your child with others, we understand it here.