The interlocutor says upon being hurt: "You ruined our whole festive mood with your refusal!" What will you do?
๐ฅ - I will stop this immediately: "Your mood is your concern, my refusal has nothing to do with it."
๐ฅฐ - I will feel guilty, cancel my plans and come, as long as no one gets hurt.
๐ - I will suggest hiring animators to lift his emotional background.
๏ธ - I will write calmly: "I have the right to refuse, my decision has not changed".