The need to confront, resist and divide - to maintain the separateness upon which the egoistic self vitally depends - is built into its very structure. Thus "I" comes up against "other", "we" against "them".
The ego needs a conflict with someone or something. That is why you look for peace, joy, love everywhere, but once you have found it, you are not able to keep it for long. You say you want happiness, but misfortune and trouble follow you everywhere.
Your unhappiness is not due to the circumstances of life, but to the conditioning of your mind.
Silence speaks
Eckhart Tolle